Anger management in Wheat Ridge, CO.
Have you ever been faced with a moment where you felt something rising within you, but you’ve been unable to express what it is? Have you often told yourself, “If my family would understand, this would be so much better!” Chances are, you have experienced anger. More than likely, you have been experiencing anger for much longer than you think. Anger is a common reaction to normal issues that can arise within a relationship. Anger is also a normal reaction to many stressors in life such as denied promotion, traffic, children, or family. Basically, anger is a result of feeling out of control or threatened. Good news, anger management therapy can help you understand more clearly.
What does anger look like?
Anger is an emotional reaction to situations that we do not often know how to deal with. In my own journey, I have experienced anger as the inability to express myself. This comes as telling myself I am wrong or a failure or not a good father in most cases. Most of us have experienced emotions, yet this is also a foreign concept. Usually anger is an overwhelming sense or a body felt sense that we do not understand.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
It is important to remember, anger is normal. Anger can protect us. Anger also influences how we walk into any particular situation. The problem with allowing anger to get out of control is that the anger is allowed to be in charge of all situations. The greatest danger is that if we allow anger to take us over, this is all our loved ones see or remember.
How anger ruins your family.
When anger is not tended to, many symptoms begin to arise such as headaches, depression, stress, sleep disorders, and eating difficulties. With no appropriate outlet, anger erupts to violent behaviors and often destroys families. “Anger is one of the most common negative patterns in relationships” according to the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Anger has been known as the silent killer among families. It sneaks in on its victim unannounced; suffocating from within.
Families suffer far too long in anger. Families become patterned to ignore, block off, and often repeat patterns that keep them in a cycle driven to avoid confrontation. This inability to communicate becomes solidified as anger is allowed to bury emotions in resentment. When families are doomed to suffer the outcome of anger, a family is not able to heal nor grow.
How can anger management help me?
Anger management is about coming into contact with what angers you and making the conscious decision to either act out emotions appropriately or choosing to act in the manner you have been. Anger management does not stop anger. The process allows you to understand the anger, then choose a reaction.
There is a choice one has in regard to anger: Act it out or let it pass. In most cases, anger manifests within half a second. The result of anger setting in on average last a few hours or days or even into months or years. As anger sets in we begin to feel a physical threat. Determining the nature of the threat is the hardest part of working with anger. Is the threat real? This is counter to most every lesson we learn in life that requires us to “find a resolution” or “know how to handle all situations.” Sometimes we just do not know the answer, therefore, what is often the best recourse is to allow the anger in, and allow it to pass.
We can change things up a bit and thank the anger for the many years of protection, but right now, in this moment, I don’t need you. I’ve got this.
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If you are suffering from violent outburst and eruptive anger, please call me to see how I can help you reconnect to your family and finally understand how anger manifests. For a free consultation, click here to set up an appointment.
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