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“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” —Dr. Brene Brown
It takes tremendous courage to admit we need help. To admit that certain areas of our life have become difficult to navigate alone. However, we get to choose how we approach these times. We can choose to see these difficulties as a burden. Maybe we even feel shame and guilt. Or, we can see these difficulties as an opportunity to take a journey on somewhat stormy seas. Navigating life’s changes can be frustrating and overwhelming at first. Whether you are seeking support for the difficulties that have come up in your current relationship, or you are seeking support for yourself, I want to assist you in navigating your way to calmer seas.
My areas of focus are:
- Couples and Marriage Counseling
- Family Therapy
- Life Changes (job loss, career change, divorce, death of a loved one)
- Parenting & Fathering (yes, there is a difference)
- Anger Management
Couples and Marriage Counseling
“Repair attempts are a secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples.” —John Gottman, PhD
Every meaningful relationship can become complicated and at times frustrating. When relationships become frustrating and demanding for too long, we may forget the basic tools that keep relationships strong: communication, respect, and desire. Often, what I have found in my own relationship is that to weather the stormy seas we both need to be willing to dedicate ourselves to removing issues that block our communication and respect so we can rekindle desire. Couples can do this by supporting each other and exploring the roadblocks. Please check out my specialty page where you will learn my approach to couples counseling.
“We are not changing what happened. We are changing the way it lives in us.” — author unknown
Families often fall under stressful times just like individuals and couples. Family problems may result from divorce, financial strains, chronic illnesses, or drug or alcohol abuse. Families need support during these times and family therapy allows every member of the family to have a voice while strengthening the love and bonds within the family unit. I want to share with you ideas to strengthen your family.
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” —Viktor E. Frankl
Some changes in life are welcome: a new job, a change in career, a return to school. Life changing goals invigorate us and give us the opportunity to learn and grow. It doesn’t mean we don’t get scared or overwhelmed. Consequently, some changes in life are not welcome: divorce, illness or even death of a loved one; or a debilitating illness of our own that requires major life changes. Wherever you find yourself, I want to assist you in developing the coping skills needed to be successful in the next phase of your life.
Parenting & Fathering
“How can I try to explain, when I do he turns away again. It’s always been the same, same old story” —Father and Son, Cat Stevens
Learning to parent effectively creates loving, strong, caring and responsible adults for a future society. Parenting can be rewarding, but it is also challenging and at times overwhelming. Parenting requires patience, skill, and a role model to draw upon during times of turmoil. All too often parents lack a good role model, or forget the tools taught to them by their parent. Being a loving and nurturing father is challenging for many men. Especially for men who lacked a good role model. Being a father is more than providing money to the family and when men feel they are failing, but not sure why, they often become angry and withdrawn. I assist in helping men explore what is preventing them from being the fathers they wish they had.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
Learning to deal with emotions is not something we come by naturally. Anger is a natural response to feeling attacked, decided, frustrated, or even treated unfairly. If the way you behave when you feel angry is causing you problems in your life or relationship, it is worth investing in time to explore these this dynamic. Often anger masks other emotions that tell us we are not good. I want to help you understand your anger and make choices in life that are beneficial for you! Check out my free guide to see how I conceptualize anger and how I intend to help you. Get the guide here.
All of my support is inspired by both gestalt therapy and depth-psychotherapy methods.
In light of what you might be facing in life, I hope to meet you one day and support you through couples therapy or individual counseling.
Son. Husband. Father. Psychotherapist.